Scripture Reflection

“I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.”
Galatians 2:20

“But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.”  1 Peter 2:9

God has created us all with inherent qualities, gifts and talents. These gifts shape how we view life, how we relate to others, and how we impact the world. We delight when we are operating in our gifts, and when used properly, they are a blessing to others.

Unfortunately, when misapplied, our unique gifts and personalities can also hinder us from living the abundant life Christ died for us to live. This can occur as a result of 3 factors:  A) Trauma from childhood events; B) Worldly influences; C) Satan.

A)  Trauma from childhood events

As children, when we are impressionable and not able to distinguish truth from lies, we  can experience an event, or even internalize an event, that can change the way we view ourselves and the world. This is called a limiting (faulty) belief. Studies show that faulty beliefs are normally formed between the ages of 5-7 years old. During this stage of our lives, what we see, what we hear, what we’re repeatedly told, is fed into our fragile subconscious mind  where it’s treated as fact. As we grow older, these limiting beliefs continue to be triggered unconsciously and regularly and can create false identities, meaning they lead us to become someone who God did not intend for us to be.

For example, let’s say you’ve been blessed with the gift of having a servant’s heart – meaning you are very thoughtful and considerate of other people’s feelings.  Then an event or series of events occurred that made you feel worthless, unloved, or unlovable early as a child- that becomes a part of your belief system. As a natural servant, you learned that being really nice to people (parents) would temporarily make you feel loved by them and win their approval. In your mind, you might form the belief that being nice equals love. As you grow up, this pattern continues and every time you experience a feeling of worthlessness or rejection, you try to please. Consciously you are not aware of this but it affects everything you do. These beliefs also become the lens of our existence. These are the colored glasses through which we perceive life.

B) Worldly influences

We live in a world of good and bad, light and darkness. If we’re not careful the lure of the world will dictate the type of person we should be. When we’re not in alignment with who God has called us to be, we will align with who we’ve been programmed by the world to be. Without our compass to direct us to our Heavenly Father, we end up reflecting a lesser version of ourselves.

C)  Satan

Satan uses every possible device, including our unique personalities and gifts, to enslave us.  He attempts to distort and corrupt every good thing God has given us. His greatest weapon is psychological deception. In his scheme, he makes us believe we are inferior, inadequate and of no-value to others and especially to God.

As a result of one, two or all of the above factors, our personalities and gifts begin to get in the way of living the abundant life that Christ died for us to live when we use them as a mask to hide our brokenness; when we use them to get what we want or to manipulate others so they can see us in a certain light. The key to our healing is to learn to let go of the false identities that we’ve taken on and return to God’s original intent and design for our unique make up and personalities.

Over the years of working with hundreds of clients, I’ve identified 6 common ‘identities’ that have been misapplied in our lives. Please note also, that this is not an exhaustive list but it’s what I notice gets in the way of people’s breakthrough. Please note that although there is scientific basis behind this as far as their biblical and health connections goes, these are based on my personal experience and insights.

Over the next few weeks, we will identify which false identities may be blocking your success, help you to rediscover your true identity in Christ and provide a variety of strategies to help you with the transition.

Week 9 Lesson Plan

Day 1 –  Overview and Opening Prayer

Day 2 – Feature Video: The ‘Big House’ Finale

Day 3 –  Weekly Lesson Plan

Day 4 – Body, Soul and Spirit

Day 5 – Boundaries/Webinar

Day 6 – Summary of Week 9

Day 7 – Reflection on Week 9

By the end of the week you will:

  • learn the last 3 false identities and understand how they apply to you or people you may know
  • understand the connection between your core fears, limiting beliefs, and false identities

Prayer for Week 9 – Finding your identity in Christ

Dear Lord, you have redeemed me and love me, but so often I let the cares of this world or the hurts of my past drag me down and away from your grace. I even let the lies of the enemy come between us! Forgive me, Lord!

Your Word tells me I am fearfully and wonderfully made, so show me my identity in you. Break through the lies I keep believing and shine the light of your truth on me. Expose the unique gifts and talents you have given me so that I may bless you and others with them. In your name I pray, amen!

Share how you used the Word of God to fight against your false identity. Explain what happened and how declaring your identity in Christ made a difference. 

In the Facebook group ( for Haven small group members only) Your identity in Christ

In the forum  (for e-course members only) – My insights

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