Scripture Reflection

But he must ask in faith without any doubting, for the one who doubts is like the surf of the sea, driven and tossed by the wind.  For that man ought not to expect that he will receive anything from the Lord,  being a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.” James 1:6-8



A basic understanding of how the mind works when it is in conflict will help you better understand how to move through to your messy middles.

Here's the principle:

When the picture of how we see ourselves does not line up with how God sees us, we will continually sabotage ourselves. The closer you get to your goal, the more you will try to sabotage your efforts. 

This is known as 'Cognitive dissonance'. I liked Wikipedia's simple layman's definition which goes like this:

The mental (psychological) stress experienced by a person who holds two or more contradictory beliefs or values. 

The bible refers to a similar term as double-mindedness. Why does this happen? God has perfectly designed our minds to seek order and consistency—it desperately needs things to make sense and it needs to make meaning out of things. Its goal is to keep us safe. Every time you step out of your comfort zone and break old habits, you feel fear which kicks your brain into a hyper-vigilance mode.

So there is one common belief among women that can cause dissonance: Low Self-Worth—you believe you're undeserving of being in good health which contradicts: (1) The Word of God, and (2) Your desire to be in good health.

If you believe you're undeserving of being in good health, every time you set out to achieve this goal, you consciously (but mostly, subconsciously) do something to sabotage yourself.

Why? Your mind is constantly trying to reconcile these opposing beliefs and the one that: (1) You've believed the longest (2) Has been reinforced the most (3) Said to you by someone in a position of power (parent, teacher, loved one) usually wins out.

It’s absolutely critical to take an honest assessment of your heart when it comes to your self-worth. Refuse to let the world's definition or your past define your self-worth. Examine what it really means to see yourself as God sees you, and believe that you are who He says you are and can do what He says you can do. Continually challenge these beliefs with God's truth and don't stop until your self-worth is realigned with Christ's.



Think about your goal, and think about your belief that you are worthy of achieving it. Do they line up?

Now think about your goal again, and think about God's ability to help you achieve your goal. Do they line up? If not, ask God to help you to line up your self-worth with your goals and your faith in Him.


Questions for Reflection 

  • How does your self-worth (or lack of) sabotage you?
  • How does cognitive dissonance show up on your weight releasing journey? What are the conflicting/opposing values/beliefs?
  • Assess your heart. Do you believe what God's Word says about your value?
  • Meditate on the truth of your self-worth. What does the Word say about it?
  • Ask the Holy Spirit for a revelation of how God sees you. Align your beliefs with the truth of God's Word.


1.  God has done a new thing in my life and I live in light of this newness.

2.  My past is forgotten and my future looks bright.

3.  My self-worth is found in my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

4.  I am who God says I am and can do what God says I can do.

5.  I deserve to be in good health because I am created in God's image.

6.  I am worthy of being in good health.



Father, I need the vision to see myself the way you see me. Speak to my heart and reveal all the faulty beliefs that keep me from seeing my value and worth. Upgrade my opinion of myself so that I move forward no longer feeling like I need to stay in my safe zone. I want to step out in boldness and confidence with the courage to achieve all of the hopes and dreams that you've laid on my heart. Lead me away from self-sabotage or anything that will keep me from believing the lie that I am not worthy. I refuse to settle for anything less than your best for me. It's so good to know that my worth and value are found in you. Keep me mindful of this every time this slips from my memory. In your Holy Name, I pray! Amen.


Meditation Scriptures


Isaiah 43:1.“Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine”

Luke 12:6-7. "Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? And not one of them is forgotten before God. Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows."

Psalm 139:13-14. "For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well."

Romans 5:8. "But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us."


1 Corinthians 14:33. "for God is not [a God] of confusion, but of peace. As in all the churches of the saints,"

Matthew 6:24. "No one can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money."

Luke 11:9-12. “So I say to you, [a]ask, and it will be given to you; [b]seek, and you will find; [c]knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks, receives; and he who seeks, finds; and to him who knocks, it will be opened. Now [d]suppose one of you fathers is asked by his son for a [e]fish; he will not give him a snake instead of a fish, will he? Or if he is asked for an egg, he will not give him a scorpion, will he?"

1 Corinthians 14:33. "For God is not a God of confusion but of peace. As in all the churches of the saints,"

2 Timothy 2:7. "Think over what I say, for the Lord will give you understanding in everything."

1 John 4:1. "Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world."

1 Peter 5:8. "Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour."



Does your lack of self-worth sabotage you? If so, how? Share what God's Word says about your worth.


Previous Lessons

Day 14 - I Deserve It

Day 13 - Hijacked by Hormones

Day 12 - Sweat More, Bleed Less

Day 11 - Just Breathe

Day 10 - Bye, Bye, Cruella De Vil

Day 9 - Maximize Energy

Day 8 - Expectation, Equals Upset 

Day 7 - Messy Mind Games

Day 6 - Order Your Steps

Day 5 - Morning Routine

Day 4 - Take a Pause

Day 3 - Go North

Day 2 - Cultivating Clarity 

Day 1 - What is Messy in the Middle