“John was a lamp that burned and gave light, and you chose for a time to enjoy his light.” ~John 5:35

Story-tellers have an amazing gift of communicating. They are highly expressive and emotional.  They can be the life of the party and can share stories in vivid detail and clarity but if this personality has been hindered in any way, the story-teller can turn into a drama-queen.



  • social butterfly
  • fun to be around
  • spontaneous
  • talkative
  • energetic
  • inspirational
  • passionate
  • enthusiastic
  • strong ability to influence
  • born to perform
  • adds flavor to any group or conversation
  • raises everyone up with their energy/positivity


Misapplication of Gift: Drama Queen (King)

  • difficult to stay focused
  • highly emotional
  • extreme highs and lows
  • tend to blow things out of proportion
  • can be manipulative
  • often find themselves way over their heads
  • can be volatile in nature
  • can excessively negative or unrealistic
  • overly dramatic
  • susceptible to dramatic outbursts
  • tends to view things as being one extreme or the other
  • need for attention
  • tend to monopolize conversations / people’s time

Root Causes:

  • low self-worth
  • feeling invisible


Limiting Beliefs:

  • I need to get people to notice me
  • I need to express myself to be heard
  • ‘woe is me’



  •  it’s just a matter of time before something (bad) happens
  • life is unpredictable
  • bad things always happen to me
  • if things are going to good, something bad must be about to happen


Indirect Effect on Health/Feelings of Discontent:

  • jump from task to task and never take action
  • would rather talk about health than actually doing anything about it
  • lots of excuses and rationalization for why they are not taking action
  • often feel stuck

Direct Effect on Health:

  • prone to excessive highs and lows
  • prone to depression
  • tends to under-estimate caloric intake and over-estimate caloric expenditure

Effect on Relationship with God

Drama queens tend to exaggerate their thoughts and feelings  in all areas of their lives and their relationship with God is no exception.  They will go to God with a highly exaggerated view of their situation and may expect God to perform miracles or  harshly punish them. Their relationship with God is based on emotions and can be tumultuous.

Reset for the: Expressive/Drama Queen

Area to Focus: Focus on God’s love, peace and authority

1. Morning Prayers:

“Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God, so that at the proper time He may exalt you, casting all your anxieties on Him.” ~1 Peter 5:6-8

“I believe. Help my unbelief.”~ Mark 9:24

“By contrast, the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.” ~ Galatians 5:22

“Let no evil talk come out of your mouths, but only what is useful for building up, as there is need, so that your words may give grace to those who hear.” ~ Ephesians 4:29

“Not that I am referring to being in need; for I have learned to be content with whatever I have.”~ Philippians 4:11

2. Phrases/declarations to recite

• I am made in the image of God

• God will fight for me

• I am not my past

3. Renew your mind

Lord, I choose to stand in your truth and not worry about what’s happening around me. You are in control and that’s all that matters.

4. Re-education of who I am

  • I am set free (Romans 8:2; John 8:32)
  • My heart and mind is protected with God’s peace (Philippians 4:7)
  • possess the mind of Christ (I Corinthians 2:16)

5. Long term strategies

• stop making a big deal out of everything- take a breath and put it in (a Godly) perspective

• work on building your self-esteem

• practice being assertive without being too aggressive, passive or manipulative- learn to ask for what you want

• stop seeing yourself as a victim- learn to take responsibility

• stop rehearsing your story- learn to live in the present